How to manage Anger and deal with Strong Emotions with Purpose: A Guide to Emotional Pivoting
Richa Chadha
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Anger is rarely the beginning—it’s what we reach when something underneath goes unacknowledged. It’s the messenger, not the message.
And yet, it’s often the first emotion we express.
A few years ago, I found myself fuming during a team call. But when I paused, I realized it wasn’t just the missed deadline that upset me. It was the deeper frustration of feeling unheard… again. The anger was real—but it was masking the real pain beneath.
Sound familiar?
When anger rises, here are some questions worth asking:
Was I feeling hurt from being unseen or dismissed?
Was I experiencing fear around change, uncertainty, or failure?
Was I frustrated because a core value had been crossed?
When we skip the step of pausing, we risk reacting instead of responding. We risk saying things we regret or shutting down when we actually need to speak up.
That’s why I return to this process often—with my clients, and in my own life:
Pause – What’s the real feeling underneath?
Take a breath. Before reacting, check in. Am I really just angry—or am I afraid, disappointed, or hurt?
Pivot – How can I respond with clarity and purpose?
Anger demands action, but not all action is helpful. This step is about choosing your response, aligning it with your values, and staying grounded.
Proceed – Take aligned action
Now that you’ve unpacked what’s underneath and grounded yourself, you can move forward—whether that means setting a boundary, making a request, or even just naming how you feel.
Here’s the truth: Your power lies in how you respond when emotions run high.
When you get clear about what’s beneath your anger, you reclaim choice.
You lead yourself with emotional intelligence.
You pivot with purpose.
So next time anger shows up—pause. Listen. Lean in.
Because there’s always more beneath the surface. And that’s where the growth begins.
With self-leadership and purpose,
Richa 🧡